The Benefits of Being Lost

The Benefits of Being Lost
I just finished reading Rebecca Solnit’s book, A Field Guide To Getting Lost, and it deals with some themes I have been thinking about lately. Her book is a series of loose meditations on different aspects of becoming lost and of what a person can find out about themselves in the process. Whether it is about getting lost in the wilderness, being an immigrant, losing oneself in a time or place, losing oneself in sex, drugs, and rock and roll, suicide, or about various species of animal going extinct or coming back from the edge of extinction, the book explores the inevitability, costs, and consequences of becoming lost.

What I have been thinking about, and probably why I was drawn to the book, is about choosing to move to a new country for the experience of it and then finding the experience really challenging.

On the one hand I am daily excited and really enthused by the clinical work I am doing. New Zealand, Auckland, at least, is a place of immigrants and immigrants all have stories of leaving, losing, and finding.

This week, I met with a client from Central Africa, and another from North Africa. I had a Maori client who felt that one of his medications, the one that he said worked the best for his psychosis was also associated with a curse that caused him to “stargaze.” I met with a Pacific Island woman and her family and looked at the reasons why she had stopped most of her medication, what the medications were supposed to do, and how we might come up with some compromise of medications that would treat her psychosis, but would have acceptable side effects. I met with a New Zealand European client and her family and discussed her reasons for stopping her medication, that she felt the medications controlled her (and she was on a combination of sedating medications that I never would put someone on) and how she felt she couldn’t travel like her friends were doing, because of the restrictions of being on medication (sedation, need to be on it or become psychotic, the logistics of trying to get prescriptions abroad). With her, we looked at how sometimes when you accept your limitations, they actually limit you in your life less. That is quite a paradox. With the woman from Central Africa, she came from a lifetime of war and lawlessness and it will be quite a challenge to figure out if her paranoia, which has at times crossed over into psychosis, is really a reaction to her past trauma and her recent relocation to a country in which she doesn’t speak the language, or if she is really developing a psychotic mental illness. Another client spoke about how they would be alone here in New Zealand, or they would be alone if they moved to the country where their spouse was working, and they would be alone if they moved back to their country of origin.

On the other the hand, I realized that this is the worst job I have worked in as I look back at the seven jobs I have previously had since graduating residency. The orientation has been terrible. The mismatch between my expectations & the jobs expectations and how the structure of the job seems to do everything it can to frustrate meeting expectations. I feel like I am working hard all day long, but that I am pulled in so many different directions that at the end of the day I am exhausted and feel like I haven’t hardly done anything.

 

The Benefits of Being Lost

 

I understand, logically, that wanting to do something completely different means that I will not be doing the same old, comfortable thing. But sometimes, this all seems a bit ridiculous and I long for the good old days when I had some control over my professional life and I could feel good about getting some work done in a day.

I haven’t made the case yet for the necessity of becoming lost at times throughout one’s life, the need for that seems pretty obvious, at least to me. I understand the saying, that if nothing is lost, nothing is gained. However, many of the above clinical stories show some of the dangers of becoming lost and staying lost. I suppose psychosis, from a psychological perspective, is another way of becoming lost, losing touch with reality and getting stuck in a self-referential world in which one’s fears become self-fulfilling prophecies.

What Solnit’s book helped me to see is a deeper understanding of the double-edged sword of getting lost. I don’t think she really looks so much at the reasons why getting lost is necessary in life. It just seems like a given in the book. What the book does look at is the hard work and energy that goes into becoming lost in the first place and then in making sense of it in the second place. It is a serious book, but not a hopeless one. The book seems to honor the need and the process and the benefits of being lost without becoming too Pollyannaish or “therapeutic.”

Solnit mentions the early 1980s post-punk band from Manchester, England, Joy Division. There is a page or two devoted to the band, the environment their music grew out of, and the atmosphere that the music created. This last week, I went to see the bass player from Joy Division, Peter Hook, and a new band of young punks, recreate the album Unknown Pleasures, for its 30th anniversary. The other two original band members weren’t there. I wasn’t sure what to expect of the show. On one hand, I didn’t want to have an experience that lessened the original album and band, but on the other hand, I was really curious to hear what it would be like and to experience that music, that I had listened to over and over as a teenager, performed live. The technical sound of the music was incredible, it had the old effect I remember from the past of a dangerous and powerful current and how it has the effect of opening up strange, wonderful, and unsettling places within myself. (Although I think Cries and Whispers, honestly, at least in my memory, did better covers of Interzone and Day of the Lords). Listening to this music born in Manchester, that I had lost myself in while in my basement room in the Midwest of the United States, performed in Auckland, New Zealand, was amazing and unsettling.

Solnit writes in her book about book that she had conceptualized but had never written. It reminded me of the writing I had done on Joy Division, as well as other topics, for a book I had planned. The idea for the book was to look at the lives and work of people who had experienced some form of trauma in their lives and then addressed trauma in some way in their creative work. The chapter on Joy Division was to be called, “Trauma and Transformation in Punk Rock.” As I was recently thinking about this, I realized that I was working with some of the same themes about the dangers and benefits of becoming lost. I realize that the work I had done was not lost, because I am still working on the themes. I remember a Carl Jung quote that said something like, people don’t work on many themes in their lives, rather, they work on one theme from different perspectives.

The ways in which I currently feel lost are that I am having trouble seeing how I fit into the larger system of health care in New Zealand. The clinical work is challenging and rewarding, but how the community mental health centre I am working in will come through its own transition and what role I will play there is a big question. I have never had this much difficulty adjusting to a job. Many days I feel like the structure and system of the job is designed to prevent me from doing the clinical work that I know how to do.

I realize that the place I am working is in chaos and transition, but the overall New Zealand health system also seems lost in a way. Of the 50 spots for psychiatric trainees in the country, only 10 spots were filled last year. This year, the district health board I work for only has one new psychiatric trainee starting for the year, out of 10 positions. 40% of all physicians in New Zealand are from overseas. New Zealand is experiencing a steady brain drain of physicians going to Australia where they easily make 30% more for the same work which is probably not in a setting of continual strain and loss of staff. Even if my specific job sorted out, I would be unsettled by these larger trends. I knew of some of these issues before I arrived here, but I had no idea how dire the situation was. It seemed like this would also be an opportunity for creative ways of working and providing care, but the system seems incredibly apathetic and has incredible inertia that seems difficult to shift.

This reminds me, in a way of the US financial crisis, in which the people who seem least able to solve the crisis are the people in charge, because they are the ones who are the architects of the crisis. As Einstein said, you can’t solve a problem using the same tools you used to create the problem. You have to lose the old tools and step into the unknown of developing new tools. To an outsider, the situation the New Zealand health care system is in looks critical. While people get upset about little things with the system, no one seems to be revamping the whole system.

One thing that I am frustrated to have lost is the canvas on which to work – in my private practice, I could change things and develop new things as the need or mood would arise. Now, I have to ask permission from a system that is often apathetic and unresponsive. I have had a few experiences of putting a lot of energy into something that either goes nowhere, or the plug is pulled on. I am used to being a creative, hard-working, and conscientious person and sometimes these things seem to be either not culturally appropriate, or at least not supported within the local system. These are things that I know I can’t change or ignore within myself. The current system where I am working seems to require a tremendous amount of energy to function and in its functioning it seems to put energy into trying to make the system not function. I often feel like I am spinning my wheels and putting in a lot of energy with very little to show for it at the end of the day. I am also spending a tremendous amount of energy trying to figure out what is the local culture of the mental health centre (which almost everyone in and out of it admits is not functioning well) and what is the culture of the larger New Zealand health care system.

My observation about a dimensional difference between the United States and New Zealand is that in the United States, work is often very systematized and there are policies, procedures, and protocols. This is something that I have seen the dark side of in that the humanness of the individual physician and patient is often lost to the needs of the functioning of the system. Scientific, “evidence-based” medicine, also plays into this dehumanization and overly technical systematization of the doctor-patient relationship. The good thing in the United States is that things get done effectively and efficiently. The question is whether the things that are getting done are doing any good.

In New Zealand, there seems to be more of an Old World who you know instead of what you know. The “system” seems to function on the basis of individual relationships more than on policy and protocol. I have tried to banish the 4 P’s from my vocabulary: policy, procedure, protocol, and process. Things seem to be done the way they are done or the way they have been done and if there is a deviation from this, there is often a sense of floundering in the abyss, rather than an organized approach to system development and change. There is a manual that I see on a shelf at work entitled, CAOS. I fantasize that it is the English spelling of the word, “chaos,” but I haven’t worked up the nerve to look at the manual to see if it is for creating chaos or managing chaos.

 

The Benefits of Being Lost

 

New Zealanders really seem to despise anything negative being said about their country. There is the phenomenon of the “tall poppy” and “cultural cringe,” here. The “tall poppy” refers to New Zealanders trying to tear down anyone who dares to do something out of the ordinary or to stand above the crowd. Presumably this comes from a culture that is very collectivist and group oriented. The effect is a culture that creates mediocrity rather than fosters individual self-expression and creativity. I was reading an interview with Jemaine from Flight of the Conchords, and he was talking about “cultural cringe,” which is similar phenomenon, in which anyone who becomes popular or does better than others at something evokes a cringe and negative reaction from the culture. For instance, he says his popularity in the United States is dismissed as “Americans are idiots, so he can’t be that good.” I wonder if I am running into some of this attitude here as well. I know that there is a stereotype of Americans being clueless, self-centered know-it-alls, and I try to be sensitive to this, but I also know that it won’t work for me to try to be apathetic and mediocre.

In some ways, New Zealand seems like a culture that has lost its external referents, but hasn’t found itself. There is an official policy of Bi-culturalism here, based on the Treaty of Waitangi, which recognizes the countries responsibility to maintain Maori culture, the people who were the first human beings to colonize New Zealand. However, I have come across some comments that the New Zealand Europeans either don’t have a culture, or that their cultural identity is still with the UK more than with themselves. There have been debates in the newspaper whether or not New Zealand should become a republic after the current Queen of England is gone. Many of the arguments for keeping the monarchy over New Zealand seem to arise from a desire to be defined from someone and someplace else.

A friend of mine was talking about when her ancestors came to New Zealand in the mid-1800s and how her identity and much of New Zealand’s identity is still from the UK. I found it interesting that her relatives had come to New Zealand decades before many of my relatives, and yet I had a more of an identity as an American than she did as a New Zealander.

The Benefits of Being Lost

 

There are many ways that cultures work through being thrown in contact with each other. History shows that cultural interaction tends to enrich a culture more than any drive toward cultural purity or superiority does. The enriching interactions of different peoples and different ideas seem to be far more leavening than a lot of a single ingredient. (In fact genocide or discrimination seems to be how many of the single ingredient recipes work out). People seem to have different attitudes towards difference. Some don’t want one food to touch another on their plate, whereas others find mixing everything up to be more enjoyable.

The mixing of peoples and cultures is one form of change and this change is an inevitability. New Zealand is importing 40% of its physicians and that will change the culture of the medical system here. New Zealand, maybe more than any other place colonized by Europeans, is founded on a contract and treaty, that is still living, between two very different cultures, the Maori and the European colonists. Now New Zealand is opening up to refugees from all over the world and also many immigrants from Asia and the Pacific Islands. There are now more Pacific Islanders in Auckland than on some of the original islands. The United States went through the typical colonial exploitation of native peoples and is now struggling to make sense of the influx of Latino immigrants and Latino culture.

How this mixing, in New Zealand and the United States, and intermingling is handled will determine what is lost and what is gained. You cannot go to another country without losing something and gaining something. Similarly, a country cannot have an influx of new immigrants without changing in some way, and all change entails loss and gain. Maybe it is each individual’s and culture’s attitudes toward loss that determines the outcome of cultural interactions and the change that inevitably comes from it. On an individual level, maybe one’s attitudes toward loss and being lost determine what will eventually be found.

 

The Benefits of Being Lost

Finding Your Place in the World

FINDING YOUR PLACE IN THE WORLD
This is an oft used phrase that people use when they are looking at issues of personal identity, career, and family. The phrase has taken on new meaning for me in having moved to another country and having been in New Zealand just over 8 weeks, now.

This morning, I got up early. I haven’t been sleeping that well because I have been stressed about trying to figure out (at a mental level, but even more importantly, at a deep internal level) how my personal ethics and professionalism will fit into the contemporary New Zealand practice of psychiatry. This gets into the whole “better, different, worse” dimension from the last blog post.

This morning, I got up early because I was thinking and troubled. I thought, that’s it – I am not going to keep worrying about all this – I am going to start working on my books, to begin with Creating a Holistic Medical Practice (which when I opened the document today, I realized it has been 2 months, to the day, since I last wrote anything on this). So, I got up and thought, I’ll just head off to the café, get a latte bowl, and do some good old writing and that will help orient me and help me to feel I have a focus and purpose in whatever it is I am doing in New Zealand. 7 am. Of course, cafés here don’t seem to open until 8 am on Sunday, which is my cultural lesson for the day. So, that is ok, I am flexible and I haven’t taken a long walk along the beach in awhile, so I headed off, the sun shining brightly on the water.

I saw a flock of Kakariki, or red crowned parakeets, about 5 or 6 of them. Amazing! I sat down along the path and watched them call to each other and dart in and out of the trees high up on the Cliffside above the road. A few NZ goldfinches, with red heads, joined in, twittering and flying in and out of the trees. After watching for awhile, I resumed my walk down the path, but decided I would head up a road winding up the hill to see if I could see the Kakariki from another angle. (Incidentally, when we went out to Tiritiri Matangi Island, the tour guide gave us each a Maori bird name to pronounce, and the one I was assigned was the Kakariki). I heard a bunch of birds calling in the trees, some of which I thought were the Kakariki. I saw a few pukeko grazing on the lawn. I couldn’t get a good view of the parakeets, so I gave up and walked on up the hill, pausing to look at some thrushes along the way. I got up to the top of the hill and sat down for awhile. Lo and behold, the Kakariki had come up the hill, one sat on a fence for a while and then a pair of them went off into a tree. I followed them and at times they seemed to follow me. They seemed kind of curious as I kept trying to get a picture with my camera phone (unsuccessfully), but it was alright, I got quite a few good views of them. Then I walked over and down the hill to the Sierra café and at 8 am got some breakfast (a very tasty plate of poached eggs, toast, boiled tomato, potatoes, and creamed mushrooms) and my latte in a bowl.

The thing I think I am struggling with is finding my place in the world, and more specifically finding my place in New Zealand, and more specifically yet, my place in Manaaki House and psychiatry at Auckland District Health Board. Some of this is adjusting to the “differentness” in the way things are done. Some of which seem “better” and some “worse” from my perspective. One of the things I am hitting, which I think is a cultural difference, is that I would like my role to be clearly defined, I would like to see the policy and procedure manual, so that I can see what the policy is for which staff are allowed to touch medication, to dispense medication, and what the rules are for how and where and under what kind of security medications are stored. I have almost learned, now, to stop asking for the written policy and procedure manuals. That doesn’t seem to be the way things are done here. I am still thinking there must be some policies on these things somewhere, but it doesn’t seem to be a simple thing for me to get them and I fear I have offended some people in my quest for written guidelines. I am trying to understand the de-emphasis on policy manuals as a more “laid back” approach to life and work in New Zealand, but it is very difficult for me to go against my orienting reflex of what are the rules, how are we supposed to be doing this? One person I spoke to mentioned that people are going to think he is “Hitler” because he wanted to update some policies. That is a pretty strong anti-policy sentiment. What I struggle with, is that from my perspective, an American who has worked in many different health care delivery systems and designed from scratch a small health care delivery model (private practice), it seems like a lack of organization and structure. For me this is a culture clash, because in my disorientation in Kiwi culture, my orientation reflex is to find the structuring and organizing principles, which creates a greater dissonance between me and the culture and the day to day work.

Another cultural difference that I am finding is that Kiwis, not just at work, but in many settings, banking and business (these being other settings that I am used to having clear cut rules, policies and guidelines) there is a tendency to avoid directly answering questions that in the US would have a very clear and direct answer. For instance, I was at the bank last week, activating my EFTPOS (electronic fund transfer point of service) card which is also a MasterCard, and I tried 3 times at the window and then back to the “ATM” machine and it wouldn’t work. Eventually, the teller asked if I would just like some money at the window. I did, but I also wanted my card to be able to work. We have already switched banks once and I keep getting in these situations where I don’t have access to money accept for using my US credit card, which costs more with currency exchange fees. So, I said yes, I’d like some money. The teller said I should just wait a little while on my card, that it was activated in the system, but that sometimes it takes the computer awhile to update. So I took my $100 and tried again at the ATM a few days later and it still didn’t work. So, I waited about 15 minutes for a teller, and then she was able to get my card activated both as an EFTPOS and a MasterCard. I asked about my balance on my credit card and there was a $3 fee for a cash advance from the day before when I got the $100. I said that I didn’t feel like that was fair, because I was in and out several times and when I got the money, I thought I was getting it from my account at the bank, not a cash advance on my credit card. ($3 isn’t a big deal, and this whole episode may seem kind of petty, but when you repeat similar interactions many times over a week on many different topics, some minor and some major, it starts to become clear that there is some kind of cultural issues at work). She said she understood, and that it was a mistake and that it was “fixed.” Having been in New Zealand for a little while now, I knew enough to ask what she meant when she said it was “fixed.” She said, it won’t happen again. I thanked her for that, and then said, I didn’t want to pay the $3. She said when I got my bill, I could address it then. I said, well, why can’t we address it right here. I am here, you are here, and we can both see the $3 on the screen and why on earth would I opt to get a cash advance and pay for that when I have money in my accounts. Yes, she could see my point, she was sorry, she said it is taken care of. I said, so I won’t have to pay the $3? She said, oh, no that fee is there, but it won’t happen again. I took a deep breath and settled in for a prolonged discussion on this. She glanced back at the ever lengthening line of customers, and said she would talk with her manager and get the $3 fee removed. We each took down each other’s details (another thing I have learned in NZ is to write down the name, date, and details of the interaction because what someone says doesn’t always turn out to be what someone does) and I went on my way.

What seems like a very positive thing in Kiwi culture is that no one in the line got angry or irritated, at least not that they showed. I observed a Fiji Indian bus driver spend what seemed like 5 minutes one day patiently working with an Asian woman who spoke minimal English to figure out where she wanted to go and to make sure she was on the correct bus. The customer behind her jumped in at some point to help as well and said that she knew the road and was travelling near there herself. The bus driver then said several times slowly and clearly, you stay with her (gesturing to the helpful woman), you stay with her and she will show you where to go. At the appropriate stop, the helpful woman got off the bus with the Asian woman and gave her some more directions. This patience and desire to help is a really great quality. I wonder sometimes if the flip side of it though, is (what appears to a hasty and restless American who always wants to make things “better”) that there is a lack of dissatisfaction with things that are not working well. It can seem almost apathetic to me sometimes, but I tell myself that it is the flip side of other positive cultural attitudes, but then I say, but when you are dealing with money, or medications that can kill someone or be mis-used, is that attitude “different” or is it “worse,” and can I go along with it or should I risk being seen as a busy-body, know-it-all, who says “where I come from, we don’t do it that way.” One thing I have read and been told is that the surest way to alienate a Kiwi is to criticize the way things are done or to compare them unfavorably to a larger country.

In moving to another country, there is probably always a prior feeling of not fitting in with your own country. I know for me, that I am often critical of the US and on many levels tend to feel like I don’t fit in. Also, I tend to drift toward the fringes and I tend to really enjoy other people who are eccentric or don’t fit in squarely into the culture. In moving to New Zealand, I think on some unconscious and maybe semi-conscious level, I think I was hoping I would find a place where I “fit in.” I think this is one the major internal issues I am working on. What if I don’t fit in here? What if then I don’t fit in back in the US? What do we do, move to a third country?

I know that many people in spiritual or psychological circles would say that everyone is an individual and that the important thing is to feel comfortable with oneself. If you fit into yourself, you will find a place in the world. I do ascribe to that view, although I don’t think that is the whole truth. At least, it sounds like a potentially lonely place without much connection to others. I have been reading some of Mason Durie’s books. He is a Maori psychiatrist who has written about Maori cultural attitudes and the lack of fit in a Westernized medical system. The Maori, he says, don’t have the sense of themselves as isolated individuals, but rather their sense of self is contextual, land, place, family, tribe, and spiritual realms and connections which also are often connected to places. He says that they have a more “holistic” view of health and identity. This is definitely different from the Westernized view of a sense of self that is “portable” and self-contained and self-referential. I see the pros and cons with both the Individualist and Collectivist orientations. I can create a narrative, as many others have, that in the West we have taken Individualism to the extreme that we no longer have a sense of connection to our environment and each other. The problem of alienation and nihilism can be traced back to the rupture of connection of the individual to self, to other, and to environment.

What is the solution? What is the problem? What are different ways that people find themselves in the world? How do people find their place in an ever changing world and human environment? Is meaning to be found in the individual’s relationship to their Self, or in the individual’s connection to the Other? Is there a way that all of this is true, that there are times that a connection to Self is most pressing and other times connection to Others is more salient? How important is it to be true to your Self and how important is it to fit in?

Better, Different, Worse

The Orientation Reflex

In moving to a different culture, one encounters many things, some familiar, some similar, some different, and some exotic. To orient oneself, there is a natural tendency to like what is familiar and to dislike what is unfamiliar. Even in a state of adaptation to a culture, under stress, one reverts to learned behaviours. For instance, if you grew up driving on the right side of the road and are learning to drive on the left side of the road, and you hit some panic or disorientation, there is a tremendous drive to go back to what is familiar and over-learned, the right side of the road. This orienting reflex is similar to what Laurence Gonzales writes about in his book, Deep Survival, when he describes the human tendency to respond to the known, even when one realizes that one is in an unknown situation. In a life and death situation, responding as if the unknown situation is known can be a fatal mistake. What Gonzales describes could be seen as an example of the orientation reflex, an attempt to apply a mismatched response to a situation that is causing disorientation. The stronger the sense of disorientation, the stronger the orientation reflex.

The orientation reflex could be seen as a form of psychological defense, although I am not sure that really does it justice. A defense is a fixed psychological state in response to a challenge or stress from the environment. There are differences in opinion as to whether a defense is always a distorted reaction or whether it was perhaps a valid reaction at one point, but is now no longer valid because it is out of date, from an earlier time in life, and therefore immature when compared to one’s present abilities. Either way, the orientation reflex is a mismatch between the current environment and the over-learned behaviour. The question is how to resolve the mismatch or whether to live with it.

In life and death situations, like Gonzales describes in his book, the orientation reflex can lead to death. Similarly, in trying to drive on the left side of the road, the orientation reflex could get you into a lot of trouble and maybe even get you killed. The challenging question arises in situations that are not life and death, but rather socio-cultural interactions between individuals with different over-learned behaviours or different orientation reflexes. At a certain point, if you are living in a different culture, you end up hitting a place where your sense of self and your orientation reflexes come into conflict with the host culture you are living in. At this point, the question is do you change yourself, do you adapt to the new host culture. The vast majority of people will choose to adapt somewhat, but it is a spectrum and people may find that they are comfortable with different places along the spectrum.

At the two extremes of the adaptation spectrum are the choice to not adapt at all, but rather to concretize one’s own culture and orientation reflexes, and at the other extreme, to fully adapt and blend with the new culture and to leave one’s previous sense of self and orientation reflexes behind (“going native”). The really challenging thing is that a person’s sense of self is also made up of these automatic orientation reflexes, and that to change these reflexes requires at the very least to re-wire your brain, so to speak, or to make major changes in your sense of self.

Better, Different, Worse?

One simple way that a person can respond to a new culture is to break down everything that is not familiar into the categories of Better, Different, or Worse. In a very real sense, everything that is not familiar in a new culture is Different. (Of course, even some of the things that seem similar could turn out to be different and this could be some of the most disorienting cultural interactions). Some of the things that are Different, may then be judged to be either Better or Worse. If someone voluntarily moves to another culture, there must have been at least some aspects of that culture that were thought to be Better than the culture being left. Even if one claims to just be seeking Different, I would guess that there is still a drive to find Different Better.

It may seem to not be politically correct to say that another culture is Better or Worse than another. I for one, do not believe that statement to be true. Part of being Different means that some things may just be plain Different (driving on the left vs. driving on the right), whereas other things may be Better or Worse. Even to go back to the old dimension of cultures being somewhere on the spectrum between Individualist and Collectivist will mean that certain cultures have more individualist strengths (such as a strong sense of self separate from the collective) and others will have more collectivist strengths (such as strong in-group and family bonds). A culture in which bribery is common could be said to be Worse – in that dimension – than a culture that does not have bribery.

In looking at cultures as having different strengths and weaknesses, different values and preferences, it follows that certain cultures will have different things that they do Better or Worse than others. Admittedly, to say that something is Better or Worse is to make a judgment from an outside perspective. Someone who grew up in a culture in which bribery is the way to get things done may very well think that is the best way to get things done, from a moral relativist position, it can be difficult to make any judgment of anyone or anything at all. However, there are certain elements of mutually agreed upon realities. Most of the people of the world would probably agree that torture, deceit, unfairness, cruelty, and discrimination are Worse than the opposite, or at least the attempts to have the opposites of those qualities.

On one level, there is this universal level where most people would consider something Better or Worse. Are these stereotypes or do stereotypes have an element of truth to them. Are the French Better cooks and the Germans Better engineers? Is it true that French culture places a higher value on good food and good living and German culture places a higher value on structure and order? Is it true or false that American culture is Better at some things and Worse at others?

Lately, I have found myself using this heuristic of breaking down challenging cultural situations into the Better, Different, Worse framework. I try to always remind myself that the reason something is disorienting is that it is Different. I hold off judgment as to whether something is Better or Worse until I have been able to have a series of situations in order to see some kind of larger pattern. Even once I decide that something is Better or Worse, I realize that this is still relative to me and my values and I try to see how what seems worse could be the weakness of a strength in another dimension. For instance, it would be difficult to have both very individualistic and collectivistic strengths in the same culture.

I am still working out patterns in New Zealand culture and how these are Different than patterns in US culture. While I have the luxury of taking an anthropological approach in certain areas, in my job, I have to function as a professional in a system that may very well have different concepts of what is professional and ethical behaviour. I face the dilemma of having to rapidly decide in what ways to adapt to the culture and in what ways to hold to my professional orienting reflexes. This is quite a challenge.